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Why Some People Prefer Sleeping Alone

Published On September 2, 2019 | By Joshua Sigafus | Sleep

Does the idea of significant others sleeping alone seem weird to you? In the western world and western culture, it has long been the custom for couples to sleep together. This is how it has been for years, and how most people assume that it should be today. 

But for some, this practice is changing… for many reasons. Yes, snoring has been driving more and more sleeping partners into separate beds, but there are also other reasons. In previous articles that we have published, we have talked about this exact issue, but our approach has always been to idealistically look at possible solutions for couples who have trouble sleeping together, but still want to

But in this article, we are going to take a different approach.

6 Reasons Some Couples Prefer To Sleep Separately

Why are couples looking at sleeping separately as a good solution to some of their sleeping problems? Here are a few reasons.


Sleeping separately is an obvious solution to a snoring problem. After all, it can certainly be difficult to sleep together when one of you is making enough noise to wake up the dead… so it is not surprising that a problem like this could drive a partner to sleep on the couch, or even in another bedroom altogether.

Relationship Stress

Recent research conducted in Britain has indicated that as many as 1 in 4 couples in that country regularly sleep separately. And though there are a number of reasons for why, 38 percent say that it is due to a problem in the relationship. Of this percentage, 1 out of 10 have reported that sleeping alone has caused their relationship to ‘fizzle,’ and 28 percent reported that sleeping in separate beds has led to them having less sex with their partner.


Some couples choose to sleep apart simply due to convenience. If one partner needs to get up for work early, while the other still needs to sleep, it can simply be more convenient for them to sleep in different beds to avoid the stress of the morning routine. Some couples may also have different nighttime habits that keep them apart when it is time to rest. 

If one partner likes to watch TV, for example, while the other likes to go right to sleep, sleeping in different rooms can offer a solution that solves a lot of the problems without really adding many downsides.

Both Partners Like Different Temperatures

You might not think of this as a common reason, but it is far more common than you may think. If one partner likes to turn the air conditioner down, while another likes to turn the heat up, it only makes sense that they are going to have a challenging time sleeping together. 

Rather than deal with this within the same room, some couples simply opt to say goodnight and to retreat to their own bedrooms, where, sleeping alone, they have complete control over their own atmospheric conditions.

Different Sleep Habits

Does one partner like to eat sandwiches in bed? Does one like to have their sheets washed once a week, at least? Does one make weird noises in their sleep? Does one of them toss and turn to a pretty substantial degree?

These types of habits can make co-sleeping pretty difficult, and can sometimes result in the couple just not being compatible as co-sleepers.

Children’s Needs

Couples who have children may find that children stress their sleeping habits to an even greater degree — and if the couple is already dealing with sleeping stress, this may drive them to different rooms altogether to avoid suffering from any additional sleep loss. 

Children will put a strain on many aspects of a couple’s relationship, and the co-sleeping life of the parents is just one of the many categories that may endure changes as a result of having a baby.

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